Are you spending a lot of time thinking about blaming yourself for the break up and not giving him any credit for the break up as
well? Did he not contribute as well?
Do you keep rehashing an argument, wondering if things would have been better if you said or did something different from the beginning with him Do you daydream about all the ways he was special, and how you'll never find anyone who understands you quite the same way he did?
These are all a BIG MISTAKE……….. Don’t do this to yourself. It is only going to make things more awful and in the process keeping you from focusing on what’s most important to you right now. This should be seen as a learning curve, another life lesson learned on what you want from a relationship and what kind of relationship you DESERVE in the future.
When you focus on you ex too much and you “pin away” for a relationship you are missing out on a very important life lesson. You stop seeing how the relationship was a roller coaster ride, you fail to see that he was not right for you and he made you feel less than your true self. You forget yourself and you do not learn what it is you really want and need from a relationship in order to be fulfilled.
Most of the times this guy may have lead you down a negative emotional path. So instead of only thing about only the “good times” and now much you miss him consider all the things he did and said that made you feel insecure, anxious or frustrated - feelings that one way or another probably contributed to the end of the relationship.
The lesson you can learn at this point about yourself, love and men are countless. You may come to realize the real reason for the break up, it could even be that it was always there but you have been in total denial and not wanting to accept the inevitable. One thing for sure you will have a more intimate, loving and evolved relationship next time around.
Don't repeat those same mistakes in your next relationship. If you realize that even if you love a man, but yet you do not understand what makes a relationship actually work and last or you do not know what you are doing that causes him to withdraw or lose interest. Try to figure out what a "good", MATURE guy is to begin with, so you don't keep picking men who just aren't ready for a real relationship in the first place. Also What makes a man feel inspired to be completely devoted to you from day 1, both emotionally and sexually and also What a man needs in order to feel that he's in love with you and that a relationship is "working" in his mind