You know what comes after that …………. You vow not to date for a long time, or you vowing to give up on love because you don’t want to get hurt again. It could feel pretty safe living inside the bubble that you would have built around yourself, just working on your career, spending time with friends, doing things that make you happy. Sounds like someone you know?
At one point I would have totally agree with that line of thinking but it’s not correct. Because if you are honest with yourself, you will realize that you do not want to shut yourself off, from the opportunity of an amazing life experience.
If you do not create the space for that one great guy in you’re meant to be within your life, you won’t be ready for love when it finds you and it could be out there right now, just waiting for you.
You may feel pretty in-control and safe right now, but are you LIVING? If you're not taking a risk, are you risking never feeling the LOVE and connection that could transform your life someday? It’s easy for me to say this right now but it was not always so. Shutting off always feels safe and its What we use to preserve ourselves. But it never works.......... NEVER
Another thing that we say when we feel that we are not ready to date again is “there=s no good men out there for me anyway, the ones who attracts me are all taken or they are just not attracted to me.
I can see how your recent experience with men has been, well, less than great. The guy may have came on strong at first then suddenly he tells you he’s “not ready” or he just do not like you “that way” anymore or that he is not ready for a commitment. I know…… and I totally understand why you would rather break an arm than date anytime soon.
You CAN experience the kind of LOVE you've always wanted in your life, regardless of what kinds of bad experiences you've had before. You have to believe within yourself that you are a “catch” and then present yourself as a “catch”. This way quality men because they are willing to sense that you are the type of woman they are looking for and you are special. Learn the words and the behavior that will magnetically draw a man to you, and what repels a man from EVER wanting anything past the "physical" with you, so you can avoid making those mistakes and losing a guy after getting intimate with him.
You know at the end of the day the truth about attraction is not been the most beautiful or seducing a man into having feelings for you. It is actually about something much deeper and long lasting. When you have achieved that type of attraction EQUALLY with a man there is almost nothing that can keep him away from wanting to be with you.